Find a Mentor...or at Least Sit at the Table

Part of what may cause my generation such plight can be summed up quite succinctly by a line from Fight Club:

"We're a generation of men raised by women. I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need."

While most of us are heterosexual, and do in fact marry women, many of us are missing either a figurative, or literal, father.

Is this why we are a generation of "guys" posing as "men"? Is this part of the reasoning that many of us can successfully change a tire, but not spark plugs? Is missing a father the reason that so many of us quite simply don't feel like grown ups?

While there may not be a permanent solution to this, one feasible stop gap for us may be to turn to those we simply respect, whether they be teacher, friend, or co-worker.

In personal experience I have found that an agreeable idea can be found in the writing of Po Bronson in the book, What Should I Do With My Life? In this book he proposes the theory that all of us have a dinner table we sit at with five people who we are either attempting to please, or who influence us greatly.

While we may not have literal fathers to turn to, we can control who sits at our table. Are you inspired by a historical figure? Your high school coach? A collegiate professor?

Take the time to reflect on your table? Look around, decide who you are sitting with, and have a drink.